Time flies in a blink

I might as well moved back to wordpress.com instead of paying annually for designated domain which blog I only manage to update once a year.

Daie is almost 1 year. Sigh. Alot, alot of things you have missed again, blog. Nevermind. If he ever reads this again in future he would know that his mommy has been too occupied with him that she cannot have time for her blog anymore.

Since last update.. hmm.. let me check.. we went to Istanbul. First trip as three, and yeah, it was challenging! Haha. But we survived. If I rajin, I will make separate post for that trip. And if I even more rajin, I’ll continue to write travelogue again after long hiatus.

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Two botaks in this picture. Daie at err.. 6 months kut. Now already will full grown hair at 11 months! OMG, another month and he’ll be one T___T I’m gonna miss him as baby. He has been slow at some developments, like crawling.  He managed to sit first though. Now he could stand up by himself, clap his hands proudly, and stay still around 1 minutes before falling.. haha. And he’s so determined to practice standing until late night.. which also the reason we always wake up late lately >.<

And also, I have been obsessed with babywearing. Or precisely, woven wraps. You may think I am crazy for spending RM6k on 15 wraps collection within 4 months, but that was what I had thought also before I’m trapped in this craze. The best thing though, them wraps have great resell value that I dont feel so guilty. I can just try them all and sell later.

And we went to India and Kashmir, again, in January, with my parents, Az’s parents, and my sisters. Big family vacation :)   Stories later.

And something else about India is coming soon, too, which I will announce if it becomes real :)

Now a proper post-baby WordPress post

As much as I want to document the very first few days of Daie in this space, I just can’t seem to find a right time for it. Mommy is overly occupied, no doubt about it. I’m adjusting. And it’s been more than 4 months since our bundle of joy came to the world! How you missed alot of things, my dear WordPress!

Let’s go into summarized points to save time.

1) The birth

I was having so much in mind to document that the plot almost sounds like a drama. Well. I was diagnosed with placenta previa at week 25, warded since then until one surprising weekend comes that I suddenly had to go an emergency ceaseran at week 30.  I wanted to write this in detail like other first time moms would, like a real time reporting or something, but the longer I wait the less it seems to be relevant anymore. Daie was born at 30 w 2 d and weighed only 1.655 kg. I was barely conscious right after the ceaserian at 2am (in which, they put me into full sleep). So I saw him only later in the afternoon in NICU (although, Az had taken his photo for me to see before I gained the energy back to raise and be wheelchaired to NICU). He then spent his first 27 days in NICU (include almost 2 weeks in incubator) and that’s how I first created mom-baby relationship with this little guy. For first few days we could only touch him from outside the incubator, and only after a week I dared doing “Kangaroo Care” with him a.k.a. first baby hug by mommy!

2) Breastfeeding

Instead of baby coming right to my breast for feeding, they rushed him into incubator first for ventilator aid. During the first day Daie was supplied by medicines and formula as I couldnt produce milk as yet (another drama). Since the birth (and everything, actually) came so unprepared, I could only ask Az to ask my SIL to find me a breast pump WHEN I WAS IN LABOR ROOM! =.= They got me a Medela Swing (as a gift, thanks!) but hardly worked at first (actually, it was me). Only after day 2 with the help of doctor and nurses in NICU, they managed to get the milk (colostrum) out of me, and after some traditional massage by a staff in hospital, I started producing as normal as what a lactating mother should be. Although, as prem baby, Daie started drinking using tube, so I stayed in mom’s room in NICU days and nights just to pump and supply milk.

3) Weight gain

Right after birth, Daie’s weight dropped a little before gaining again (that’s normal) and every single day it was probably the most important thing to check his daily gain (and I would totally cry if he lost weight or gained only a little in a day, blaming self for not producing healthy milk with nutrient etc etc), and it was only after 2 weeks that he reached 1.8 kg and was moved from incubator to regular cot, and only then I could try to breastfeed him, literally.

4) Breastfeeding (physically)

Because the ability of suckling only started after 34 weeks or so (in uterus), so prem babies who are born earlier are still not equipped with this as yet, Daie included (hence the tube feeding). After he was moved into a cot at 2nd week, then only I could start training him to suckle, and it was not easy! I was hoping he could be discharged earlier by the time he gained 1.8kg, but until he is able to suckle, we still had to stay in the NICU. I know I was a bit impatient and Daie didn’t cooperate at first (although, of course, he could be thinking “why bother suckle? I think they feed me using tube everyday and I’d automatically feel full”~)  and only after a few days all my sweet tries worked! I know, it’s a bit weird that I can finally breastfeed him directly. And it’s actually even weirder that it only happened 20+ days after giving birth. Anyways, I have my own version of this experience which isn’t bad either ;)

5) Babysitter

After discharge, I had to get extra leave (1 month) from office due to taking care small baby, and only after Daie is 3 months I had to leave him to babysitter so I can go to work. So far so good, only nowadays when he thinks he’s grown and able to think smartly, he gradually refuses bottle feeding unlike he was small (and naive, I guess, coz he seemed okay with everything given to him back then).

6) Development

One of interesting facts about prem babies is that they don’t cry in the early days, so we thought we were blessed with a very behaving baby! ^_^ The happy quiet days however lasted until the day he was actually supposed to be born (EDD) which in Daie’s case, around 2 months after the birth, then quickly he transformed into a loud, demanding monster!! =.= Currently at 4 months 4th week, Daie is growing healthy (5+ kg at last checkup few weeks ago). He has been responsive since 4 moths I guess, and loves to giggle when people talk to him :) He has yet to roll his body (which I read baby his age should already start around this time) but on the other hand his chubby legs seem so strong that he loves to stand up on his feet with support! He loves to mumble as if want to talk already (so we have to layan him talking) and he hates lying down when he was not asleep (unless he’s in a very happy mood, but usually it doesnt last long, he would still ask for a lift or stand-up).

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Daie – in a happy mood before-he-realizes-mommy-uses-toys-to-divert-his-attention-seeking

Just an update since last update

Move house

Although by end of last year we had not really planned to move in to The House this soon, God knows how pregnancy can change alot of decisions suddenly. While we were too in love with our small rented studio somewhere in the foresty Sg Penchala where rhe sound of small waterfall and streams and jungle creatures is your daily background music, we have come to realization that we need a bigger space for the baby’s arrival. We moved into The House just 2 weeks ago after Az’s tenant moved out. Well, The House is the apartment unit in Bandar Tasik Selatan – if anyone recall from my oldies story – which happened to be the epic keyword Az used to Google a couple of years back when he ended up finding my blog. I can feel the sensual feeling when entering The House – if it’s not because Az bought this house (and for some reason had to Google it to find sensible rental), we wouldn’t have met each other in the first place. And now we officially live here.

Housekeeping and stuffing

Added furniture and adding more slowly whenever necessary. No internet yet. Guest room is ready so we’re opening it for CouchSurfing now, yeay.

Brunei

Ironically Az had to do the moving alone (sorry!) thanks to last minute change of moving date overlapped with our planned trip with my family to Brunei. My parents and sisters were too hopeless to visit somwhere without a tour package and I had to go along with them while Az cancelled his. Nothing much to say about Brunei when main agenda was actually my mum reuniting with her schoolmates and last minute getaway to Miri and Labuan also.

Baby

It was during the long weekend of CNY when I started – literally – feeling the butterfly in my belly. Now I’m having a moving creature inside! It’s spooky and funny at the same time. Gender is unknown still.

Move job

Yet another sudden change. I was planning to switch job sometime middle of this year but turned out had to do it real sooner, suddenly must go to interview and had to get a new job whatever it takes ASAP before my belly is showing! LOL if you know what I mean. Otherwise I’ll have to get stuck to this getting-sappier workplace until after delivery. So new place will start in March! Oh yeah, and Az has also got a new job apparently near to the house, perfect.

Cambodia-Thailand-Laos trip

Which has now been cut short to weekend getaway to Phnom Penh only. I’m rather sad about it as I dont know what to see in only Phnom Penh. All the travel itinerary of taking bus to Siem Reap and crossing border all the way to Bangkok, stopping by to see Ayutthaya and stretching the journey by long train to Vientiane, has officially gone into trash. Anyway, seeing it at a bright side, the trip plan was too crammed anyway to enjoy each and every place, and we wouldnt have time to see Luang Prabang. As people in LP forum answered to my post, the Angkor has existed for thousands years already, it’ll still be there in a couple more years, when the baby is out and big enough to enjoy the elephants. All I need is a little patience in this period of time.