As much as I want to document the very first few days of Daie in this space, I just can’t seem to find a right time for it. Mommy is overly occupied, no doubt about it. I’m adjusting. And it’s been more than 4 months since our bundle of joy came to the world! How you missed alot of things, my dear WordPress!
Let’s go into summarized points to save time.
1) The birth
I was having so much in mind to document that the plot almost sounds like a drama. Well. I was diagnosed with placenta previa at week 25, warded since then until one surprising weekend comes that I suddenly had to go an emergency ceaseran at week 30. I wanted to write this in detail like other first time moms would, like a real time reporting or something, but the longer I wait the less it seems to be relevant anymore. Daie was born at 30 w 2 d and weighed only 1.655 kg. I was barely conscious right after the ceaserian at 2am (in which, they put me into full sleep). So I saw him only later in the afternoon in NICU (although, Az had taken his photo for me to see before I gained the energy back to raise and be wheelchaired to NICU). He then spent his first 27 days in NICU (include almost 2 weeks in incubator) and that’s how I first created mom-baby relationship with this little guy. For first few days we could only touch him from outside the incubator, and only after a week I dared doing “Kangaroo Care” with him a.k.a. first baby hug by mommy!
Instead of baby coming right to my breast for feeding, they rushed him into incubator first for ventilator aid. During the first day Daie was supplied by medicines and formula as I couldnt produce milk as yet (another drama). Since the birth (and everything, actually) came so unprepared, I could only ask Az to ask my SIL to find me a breast pump WHEN I WAS IN LABOR ROOM! =.= They got me a Medela Swing (as a gift, thanks!) but hardly worked at first (actually, it was me). Only after day 2 with the help of doctor and nurses in NICU, they managed to get the milk (colostrum) out of me, and after some traditional massage by a staff in hospital, I started producing as normal as what a lactating mother should be. Although, as prem baby, Daie started drinking using tube, so I stayed in mom’s room in NICU days and nights just to pump and supply milk.
3) Weight gain
Right after birth, Daie’s weight dropped a little before gaining again (that’s normal) and every single day it was probably the most important thing to check his daily gain (and I would totally cry if he lost weight or gained only a little in a day, blaming self for not producing healthy milk with nutrient etc etc), and it was only after 2 weeks that he reached 1.8 kg and was moved from incubator to regular cot, and only then I could try to breastfeed him, literally.
4) Breastfeeding (physically)
Because the ability of suckling only started after 34 weeks or so (in uterus), so prem babies who are born earlier are still not equipped with this as yet, Daie included (hence the tube feeding). After he was moved into a cot at 2nd week, then only I could start training him to suckle, and it was not easy! I was hoping he could be discharged earlier by the time he gained 1.8kg, but until he is able to suckle, we still had to stay in the NICU. I know I was a bit impatient and Daie didn’t cooperate at first (although, of course, he could be thinking “why bother suckle? I think they feed me using tube everyday and I’d automatically feel full”~) and only after a few days all my sweet tries worked! I know, it’s a bit weird that I can finally breastfeed him directly. And it’s actually even weirder that it only happened 20+ days after giving birth. Anyways, I have my own version of this experience which isn’t bad either ;)
After discharge, I had to get extra leave (1 month) from office due to taking care small baby, and only after Daie is 3 months I had to leave him to babysitter so I can go to work. So far so good, only nowadays when he thinks he’s grown and able to think smartly, he gradually refuses bottle feeding unlike he was small (and naive, I guess, coz he seemed okay with everything given to him back then).
One of interesting facts about prem babies is that they don’t cry in the early days, so we thought we were blessed with a very behaving baby! ^_^ The happy quiet days however lasted until the day he was actually supposed to be born (EDD) which in Daie’s case, around 2 months after the birth, then quickly he transformed into a loud, demanding monster!! =.= Currently at 4 months 4th week, Daie is growing healthy (5+ kg at last checkup few weeks ago). He has been responsive since 4 moths I guess, and loves to giggle when people talk to him :) He has yet to roll his body (which I read baby his age should already start around this time) but on the other hand his chubby legs seem so strong that he loves to stand up on his feet with support! He loves to mumble as if want to talk already (so we have to layan him talking) and he hates lying down when he was not asleep (unless he’s in a very happy mood, but usually it doesnt last long, he would still ask for a lift or stand-up).
Daie – in a happy mood before-he-realizes-mommy-uses-toys-to-divert-his-attention-seeking